The joyous holiday season is upon us.  The season for thanksgiving, gift-giving, delicious meals with lots of people around the table. 

What are the holidays like for at-home care partners of loved ones with dementia?  Here are a couple of stories…

“This is my first Christmas as a caregiver to my 90-year-old mom who now lives with us and my husband who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s right after mom had her stroke. I got a double whammy. I cried enough to make a new ocean. We have all been together for 4 months now. Some days it seems like an eternity. On those days I sing that song “I’m still standing. Yah, yah, yah.” One daughter-in-law checks on me almost daily and always (first thing) asks how I am. The oldest granddaughter is my mother’s caregiver one day a week so my husband and I can go to appts. and just be together for a little while. It’s good to know that I’m not alone and that my inner feelings are natural. Merry Christmas to all of you out there, and may the New Year bring each of you at least one good thing a day to help you feel good about yourself and the good you are doing for your loved one.”       -anonymous   

“My heart goes out to each of us caregivers, especially those who have done it for such a long time. I know the depression; I know the isolation. I know what it’s like to watch the traffic pass by, cars full of joyous families going to a family dinner and yet once again, you’re alone dealing with what sometimes is an unbearable situation. So, I’m with you today in mind and spirit and please know you’re not alone. ” – anonymous

If you know a caregiver who may feel isolated and stressed during the holidays, make a contact.  Write a note of thanks. Offer to make a meal.  Encourage self-care such as a gift certificate for a massage or manicure. Sit with the loved one for the afternoon.  Research local dementia care resources.  Or just be there to listen. You may well be the only person they hear from today.

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for more information  https://www.alzheimers.gov/life-with-dementia/tips-caregivers#tips-for-caregivers-taking-care-of-yourself–

This article is submitted by Dementia Friendly Community Initiative, a program of Whitewater Seniors in the Park to help educate the community about dementia and to support patients and caregivers.  New committee members are very welcome!  Contact JJackson@whitewater-wi.gov or call Jennifer at 262 473 0535       https://www.whitewater-wi.gov/273/Seniors-In-the-Park